Everyone has a particular social status, in their social group. Making someone wait for you, is a way of asserting social dominance.  If someone makes you wait, it's their way of consciously, or subconsciously indicating to you that you need them, more than they need you.  Marilyn Monroe was famous, for making other actors wait for her on set.  Her reason for doing so, was loosely based on how it made her feel important.  It was only when her Psychologist informed her, that by her making him wait, it was considered rude, and meant she didn't respect his time.  She was never late, for his appointments again. 



Work schedules can also play a part in tardiness, or delinquency.  I made plans with someone a few weeks back.  I phoned two times to confirm the appointment, on the day.  No answer.  I sent a message, no reply.  I made other plans for my day, this is a natural reaction.  An hour later, the person replied saying he was ready to meet.  I explained that I had tried to contact him, but wasn't able to get a reply in time.  As a result, I made other plans, which were work related.  However, I made the offer to make it up to him.  A few weeks after that we made, concrete plans to meet at a cafe.  I messaged him to confirm the time.  He replied, he wasn't able to attend. ( extremely last minute)  Without much of an explanation or, apology but, with the promise of a phone call... which didn't happen.

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The next day, I got a long drawn out message saying he hurt himself surfing, and got a soar throat and couldn't call.  When I read this message, I had to laugh aloud.  When telling lie, it is best to keep it simple, or just tell the truth.  What really happened?  What happened is that, the guy was interested but, understood he wasn't on my list of priorities.  He wanted to reclaim some level of power, by standing me up.  Possibly he met someone, who made him a priority, which is best.  No one wants, to be made to feel like "plan b", or not an option at all...